To Forgive or Forget
People can do as much damage as they do good when it comes to relationships with peoplebut the way we handle that damage defines us as humans. I have a friend who has an ex and they fell for each other faster than anybody could have expected. They stayed up many late nights together talking about the past, the present and the future; their future together. It was what she needed, he was what she needed. Head over heels the two of them began this relation they felt nobody could have broken.
Things eventually started to go down hill. Nobody is perfect and this was understood by the both of them eventually. Everybody makes mistakes and they were no exception. They both had times where they had to forgive each other in order to continue on but they never forgot. This particular boy eventually started lying to her very frequently. She was devastated; she was hurt in more ways than words could describe. They argued more and more and were reacting to situations rather than responding. Eventually the relationship ended but it wasn't simple. She started thinking of ways to move on, and believed that if she could just forget him and everything that happened between the two she would be okay. That didn't help her it really just hurt her more. She then submerged herself in things that made her "happy". By doing this she was just distracting herself from the truth and continued to be unhappy and resentful. There was only one way she could get over him; True forgiveness.
To forgive is something that takes a lot of heart to do. It is one of the foundations of human living. To be honest and true to yourself will pave a road to true happiness. To be broken and not forgiving eventually rob you of joy, life, and healthy relationships. All she had to do was forgive him and half of that pain would go away. The other half of that is forgiving herself. To be able to let go of guilt and regret would help her continue to live her life.
I say this to say forgive others. Even in times of hurt and pain you have to be able to forgive people for your own good. Forgive fast and ask for forgiveness faster. You lead yourself to a happier life when you do. You are able to continue on and live your life without the thoughts of others consuming your mind. The sun will rise in the morning an life will go on. Forgive.