About a Loss

About a Loss

A loss is essential. Devastating yet essential. Some people go through their whole life without the experience of losing something or somebody. As athletes you are told that losses are necessary to learn what you need to do to win the next time. That it builds you to be a stronger, better, and smarter player. A loss is not the end of your career or even the end of your season, until it is. To lose the one game that could be season changing and determine if you are going to play in the tournament is devastating; until you realize that life goes on and that one game and that one moment does not define you. There are larger things that you could lose in life that once gone you realize there truly are bigger moments than that buzzer beater shot or the hit that changes the whole momentum of the game. 


As an 18 year old girl the loss of my dad made me realize that losing a game is one of the smaller things in life that I will get over. It made me realize that cherishing moments is something very essential because we never know when the Lord will call somebody home. It is moments like this that are supposed to make you stronger, better, and smarter. All of that is nonsense; moments like these will break you and you will be at your lowest. I have learned that is okay. Everybody will tell you how strong and brave you are for just getting through each day and will continue telling you to stay strong. I think that is nonsense as well. Being able to let emotion be shown is powerful and there is no need to stay strong. Life will still go on, it will just go on without having your loved one in the stands cheering you on, without them sitting in the chair they always do for dinner, without the call or text from them telling you how much they love you, and the holidays boy will the holidays be difficult. I am actually dreading them this year. 


Times like this you cherish the ones you have around you and know that the ones who aren't are there in spirit and heart keeping you safe. You will lose in so many facets of your life, that is a given. A loss is essential. You just hope it never happens to you. X.Jr.X.

 

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